|That does it, Myrtle! You and I are through!|
Pack your things and go! But leave the Cuisinart.
Photo by karpati
Embarrassingly enough, I'd already sent their Christmas present (I was SO proud of myself when I got the presents in the mail for those I wouldn't see over the holidays, and for actually crossing one thing off my To-Do-Before-Christmas list). I guess they just had one more thing to fight over in deciding who got to keep the gift.
I was stunned. Of course I'm not privy to the inner goings on of other people's marriages (thank God!), but theirs seemed to work for them. They were both well-to-do and well-suited to each other, with strengths that complemented each other's weak areas.
I have watched my spouse lose his health, his career, the bulk of our income, and -- very nearly -- his life in the past few years. But I can honestly say that I am happy. I'm more in love with him now than I was when I married him 20-some years ago. We've spent a greater portion of our lives together rather than apart.
Sometimes dreams take people in differing directions. Still, it's a tragedy when that happens to people who once thought their dreams included each other.
|My goal in life is to disprove "Money doesn't buy happiness."|
Photo by Virenda Nyberg
It just goes to show you that $$ doesn't buy happiness. I wish that were a lesson the universe would see fit to try to teach me. I wonder how much money it would take to make me UN-happy. I'd love the opportunity to find out. (Would love to say, "Let's see. Current net worth: $3.5 million. The amount that Tom donated to Scientology this year. Hmm... Nope. Still happy. Must... Have... More!")
In a very real sense, writing and a marriage have much in common. For instance:
- It is impossible to explain why one feels compelled to either write or marry.
- Both writing and marriage take enormous amounts of dedication.
- Both require constant vigilance to ensure quality and stability.
- Both can be overwhelmingly fulfilling.
- Both can drive one mad.
- In writing, as in marriage, there are few things better when it's good... and few things worse when it's bad.
|Difficult though it may be for you to believe,|
my dreams never included this.
Photo by coopah.
I find the whole thing extremely sobering. Just imagine how many masterpieces the world is missing because frustrated writers became disillusioned with the process and turned their backs on their muses. It's as tragic as vowing to love someone for the rest of your life, and then realizing that you can't keep your promise.
All photos from MorgueFile.